Achieving Your Dreams

Has anyone ever really done that?

When I look at the shambles that is my life, I am amazed.

I always thought when you tried to do everything right, played by the rules, sacrificed, worked hard and loved that you would live “happily ever after.”

To quote Nick Cage in Moonstruck “We are here to ruin ourselves and to break our hearts and love the wrong people and die!  The storybooks are bullshit!”

The biggest disappointment I have ever found in life was the fact that you can’t change other people.  You can’t make someone love you if they don’t, no matter how hard you try to make it work.  It shouldn’t be this way, but then a lot of things shouldn’t be that way.

I guess that’s why I like “The Station.”  Here is a reprint if you are not familiar with it.

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The Station

by Robert J. Hastings

Tucked away in our subconscious is an idyllic vision.  We see ourselves on a long trip that spans the continent.  We are traveling by train.  Out the windows we drink in the passing scene of cars on nearby highways, of children waving at a crossing, of cattle grazing on a distant hillside, of smoke pouring from a power plant, of row upon row of corn and wheat, of flatlands and valleys, of mountains and rolling hillsides, of city skylines and village halls.

But uppermost in our minds is the final destination.  On a certain day at a certain hour we will pull into the station.  Bands will be playing and flags waving.  Once we get there so many wonderful dreams will come true and the pieces of our lives will fit together like a completed jigsaw puzzle.  How restlessly we pace the aisles, damning the minutes for loitering – waiting, waiting, waiting for the station.

     “When we reach the station, that will be it!” we cry.  “When I’m 18.”  “When I buy a new 450SL Mercedes-Benz!”  “When I put the last kid through college.”  “When I have paid off the mortgage!”  “When I get a promotion.”  “When I reach the age of retirement, I shall live happily ever after!”

     Sooner or later we must realize there is no station, no one place to arrive at once and for all.  The true joy of life is the trip.  The station is only a dream.  It constantly outdistances us.

     “Relish the moment” is a good motto, especially when coupled with Psalm 118:24: “This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it.”  It isn’t the burdens of today that drive men mad.  It is the regrets over yesterday and the fear of tomorrow.  Regret and fear are twin thieves who rob us of today.

     So, stop pacing the aisles and counting the miles.  Instead, climb more mountains, eat more ice cream, go barefoot more often, swim more rivers, watch more sunsets, laugh more, cry less.  Life must be lived as we go along.  The station will come soon enough.

And all of us will be getting off then so I did as the gentleman suggested and I ate more ice cream tonight.  I know I can’t live forever and as someone who painstakingly always ate right and worked out the first half century of my life, I hope my body can withstand the extra fat and sugar.  If not, I’ll find out soon enough.

I’m eating ice cream for two now.  Me and my broken dreams!

 

 

The Meaning of Life

I still have the first wall art purchased for my first apartment.

I still have the first wall art purchased for my first apartment.

If you blog you probably are someone who has enough introspect to wonder why you are here.  Why any of us are here.

I would contemplate that I was here to one day make some huge difference in the world like Mother Theresa or Gandhi.  I used to think that people who really cared ran away from the 9 to 5 and went overseas to do mission work or something equally as dramatic.

I now realize that this is not for everyone and that usually good people are needed right where they are.  In the first place you would need to speak the language of any foreign nation you go to or you wouldn’t be able to ask them where the rest room was, let alone communicate anything important to them.  If everyone up and left for another land, who would minister to all the needy in their own town?

As an ex-workaholic, I have ministered to co-workers as well as some of my customers.  Even when I worked for “the man!”  I actually had one woman look me up later to thank me for taking the time to speak to her as a person, spiritually, that went beyond just helping her resolve the financial problems she was struggling with at the time.

It’s the idea of blooming where you’re planted.  That God will place you where He needs you.  He will put certain people in your path to help or be helped.  People talk about making the most of the day and giving til it hurts but I don’t really agree.  You are not supposed to make your life any more complicated than it already is and you are certainly not supposed to be hard on yourself about anything.  You have the world for that.

All you can do is the best you can and that should never be a strain.  I’m not saying you won’t be called to strain on occasion and only you know when and if the spirit will move you to make some type of great sacrifice.  I know that you should never feel guilty for being who you are and where you are.  God knows your life and what you are capable of.  Life is not a contest.  It’s life and it’s unpredictable and offers no guarantees of any kind.  Even Jesus told people not to worry about tomorrow or what they will eat or drink.

I believe as long as you walk in the word and appreciate your blessings God will provide for you in the same manner that you provide for those God has given you.

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Daily Prompt: Finite Creatures All

I don’t remember how old I was when a conversation I was having with my mother led me to the understanding that everyone dies.  I had thought that it was just random other people.  Initially I was told that only old people die and not to worry about it until my neighbors baby drowned in the bathtub when I was about 11 and I realized death can happen at any age.

When my brother, who was almost murdered in 2012, found out as a child that everyone had to die, he said something very profound; “What a waste of people!”

The fact that we do all have to die shows just how precious life is.  It’s impossible to hang on to even if you try so why would anyone make it harder for someone to do just that?

Anyone that can lay life to waste, like the flushing of a toilet, shows the world how stupid, evil and useless they really are.  They don’t have the intellect or wisdom to think of life as the sacred miracle it is.  Those are truly the dangerous ones.  The one’s whose life, and not death, are the waste.

Many kill, but how many do you know that can actually heal?

This is why I love the stories of Christ when He lived.  What he did for others physically and spiritually.  We don’t really stand a chance and yet Jesus tells us to believe.  I reason that since I know other things that Christ taught were factual, then it would stand to reason everything He said was indeed the truth.

We may leave this world behind one day, but some of us have the chance to live eternally in the spirit with God.

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Life’s Hopes and Dreams

If I were to imagine that the only use for my life would be to live and work diligently as insects do and then just die, I would say what I always thought as a child.  “What’s the point?”  When I became painfully aware of death as a young child, many times I wondered why I was doing anything.  Why any of us even bothered.

I then became aware of those that changed the world for others.  I felt strongly that this is the reason we are all here.  To make a difference for the better.  I find it very disturbing that most people are not very intelligent or wise.  That most don’t share my belief that we can all be someone else’s hero.  That many use other people for their selfish ends and proceed to lash out like a small child at the least provocation to anything or anyone that does not agree with them.  Most have absolutely no knowledge as to the miracle of life and just how precious every one of us are.

It’s really not their fault if they are not taught this in some way.  Humans only know what they learn from others.

I have suffered through a very hard and cruel life and when I was a young woman I made up my mind that I was going to write an autobiography, anonymously of course, in the hopes to help others that have shared similar fates and to warn women, especially mothers, of what not to do to their children.

Most don’t really have a clue what they are doing in life and will never realize this while they are here so there’s no problem for them at all.  Everyone I know that is content in his or her ignorance does not appear to have the ability to look beyond what they are automatically doing.  They never question any bad decision made even when confronted by others they have hurt.  Any accusation is incredulous to them.  What an odd way to live.  Socrates said “The unexamined life is not worth living” but I don’t know if I agree sometimes.  Some of the most self-deluded ignorant people are the amongst the most content that I know.  Ignorance is bliss to many but I just don’t understand how.

I believe an individual’s cloak should be removed from their sins if they are hurting others.  Jesus believed this as well.  He said this was why he was hated by many.  We should all be allowed to live as we wish as long as it doesn’t effect others adversely.  This almost never happens.  Anything we do does somehow effect others.  Even the act of hiding one’s head under the sand and committing the sin of omission.

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Why Evil Can Never Win

When you stand back and really look at the big picture, evil can never win.

God made all of his creations with something inside that simply cannot allow for this to happen.

There is no race or nationality on earth that when pushed too far, will not push back.

The earth was created that if it is changed or pushed too far, it will get rid of the pests in much the same way.

The reason that evil will never win is that everyone is created wanting to be loved and as much as this need is perverted in some who wish to be worshipped, there is no one with ears to hear that cannot recognize good, right and fair.  Some pretend not to hear or see as long as it benefits them, but everyone knows that up is above and down is below.  All rational people know when enough is enough and this is good.  It makes them fight back even if you are the most fair and good person, if the other person does not give you a choice in the matter, you have to do what you have to do.  It’s that survival instinct that God put in all living creatures.

This is what frees the slaves.

It stops people from getting carried away with whatever power they seem to think they possess for the moment.

It stops those with mal intent from completely taking over the world.

God’s people were told to be His hands and feet during their brief interlude on this earth.  You must do more than sit and pray.  Sometimes you must act and act in a manner that you might not want to.  When push comes to shove are you willing to be someone’s hero?  Are you willing to be a warrior for God!

“I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality.  This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.”  Martin Luther King Jr.

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Treat People Well While You Still Can

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Few take themselves or their actions that seriously in life and rarely think it through before they speak or act.  I believe this is because most humans are very impulsive by nature, some more than others.

When someone commits suicide, most of the time friends and family say “where did that come from?”

Are you serious?  Look around.  Admit that you live selfish lives and that you would rather ignore than take on another person’s problem to add to your own.  I’m guilty of this myself.

Have you ever said hello to that neighbor?  The one that never makes eye contact because she was severely abused in her formative years and the rest of the world piled it right on due to her lack of self-esteem?

Those expecting to be rejected or used will tend to stay by themselves.  Wouldn’t you?

What about your hard to get along with co-worker whose wife just left him?  He’s a real piece of work but it’s God’s work, lest we forget.  Sometimes people go through way more than you can imagine and even when they try to break down the door that separates them from others, there may still be a chip of it left on their shoulder.

People need to remember that caring or love comes from within.  This is obvious from the instruction from Christ.  Love others as you love yourself.  I believe that most really don’t know how to love themselves.  They feel guilty or are confused about the difference between loving yourself and being selfish and they are different.

The fact that Jesus told his disciples that when the world hated them to remember that it hated Him first lets you know that you are in good company when you are feeling unloved.  It’s not easy, but try looking at it realistically.  If you are awesome in any way, there are going to be folks that will not like you because they are envious.  Many want to be the ones that are in charge or in control of situations.  Some demand to be the center of attention in all things.  If you are knowledgeable on the job, you could irritate some and make others fear for their positions which will not make you popular.  A confident, well-balanced person will love you, but don’t let other’s bad opinion of themselves make you feel bad about yourself.

We only have one chance to do the right thing in life and we only have one life.  Only you can decide if you want to be someone’s hero or their undoing.  I have always been amazed that so many think so little of where their spirit will go after they leave this earth.  There might actually be a heaven or a hell.  Just because you believe or don’t believe does not change reality.

 

 

 

 

Instant Karma

As a Christian I do believe in what goes around comes around, reaping what you sow or “Christian Karma.”

John Lennon was truly one of the best song writers who ever lived with a great heart and mind.

So as the saying goes, the good died young thanks to the usual lame, jealous evil.