Treat People Well While You Still Can

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Few take themselves or their actions that seriously in life and rarely think it through before they speak or act.  I believe this is because most humans are very impulsive by nature, some more than others.

When someone commits suicide, most of the time friends and family say “where did that come from?”

Are you serious?  Look around.  Admit that you live selfish lives and that you would rather ignore than take on another person’s problem to add to your own.  I’m guilty of this myself.

Have you ever said hello to that neighbor?  The one that never makes eye contact because she was severely abused in her formative years and the rest of the world piled it right on due to her lack of self-esteem?

Those expecting to be rejected or used will tend to stay by themselves.  Wouldn’t you?

What about your hard to get along with co-worker whose wife just left him?  He’s a real piece of work but it’s God’s work, lest we forget.  Sometimes people go through way more than you can imagine and even when they try to break down the door that separates them from others, there may still be a chip of it left on their shoulder.

People need to remember that caring or love comes from within.  This is obvious from the instruction from Christ.  Love others as you love yourself.  I believe that most really don’t know how to love themselves.  They feel guilty or are confused about the difference between loving yourself and being selfish and they are different.

The fact that Jesus told his disciples that when the world hated them to remember that it hated Him first lets you know that you are in good company when you are feeling unloved.  It’s not easy, but try looking at it realistically.  If you are awesome in any way, there are going to be folks that will not like you because they are envious.  Many want to be the ones that are in charge or in control of situations.  Some demand to be the center of attention in all things.  If you are knowledgeable on the job, you could irritate some and make others fear for their positions which will not make you popular.  A confident, well-balanced person will love you, but don’t let other’s bad opinion of themselves make you feel bad about yourself.

We only have one chance to do the right thing in life and we only have one life.  Only you can decide if you want to be someone’s hero or their undoing.  I have always been amazed that so many think so little of where their spirit will go after they leave this earth.  There might actually be a heaven or a hell.  Just because you believe or don’t believe does not change reality.

 

 

 

 

POPPING MEMORIES

I’m not talking popping them like pills, but popping like in bubbles or balloons.  Can you do this?  I have always managed to keep most of my unpleasant memories completely out of reach in my mind.  I am not really sure how my psyche actually did this to protect me.  I do know that I never ended up completely destroyed or addicted from my sad/bad life like my siblings or others I know that have gone through the same kinds of experiences.  I have not become angry and self-destructive in a way that has completely ruined my life.  My life was ruined, but not completely. 

I have actually experienced selective amnesia for some of the really traumatic incidents that occurred when I was young.  There was one act of evil that I had absolutely no recollection of, even when my sister brought it up and I asked my mother later if my sister was losing her mind in saying this.  My mother was naturally shocked and only when she confronted me with the fact that I could not have actually forgotten something that horrible, I remembered and then was almost angry at them jogging this awake again for me.  Is that fair for people to speak of things that never need to be thought of again?  For what end would someone bring up something painful? 

This is why I have avoided most of my family, most of my adult life.  I didn’t want to admit I came from a freak show.  Many of us do, I realize this.  In fact I love reading other people’s biographies, especially those of people that are not celebrities.  It makes me feel so much better about my life and less a freak.  I prefer to live each day the best I can and I have always gotten great satisfaction that although I am not perfect, I do most things well.  I have always worked hard and have numerous talents that I have used at various times in my life.  When I was young my talents afforded me many of my friendships because of shared interests or some that were just impressed with my skill as an artist or dancer.  These are the kinds of things I put my attentions on.  Positive works because I cared about living and found that there actually was so much good in the world if you only cared and tried.  I never knew this is having hope.  I had a friend once tell me that she was jealous of me.  She said it in a nice way, but after a while it did kind of show. 

Since I have been in menopause my memory has become worse.  I would forget about anything and not have to play some psychological mind game in my brain to do so.  So getting older does have its perks if you need to forget.

Sometimes "In Place No One Can Hear You Scream"

Sometimes “In Place No One Can Hear You Scream”

 

Important Things to Think About Two

  1. You only live once.  You cannot change the past but you can do something about the future if you believe that you can.

  2. For the most part, there is nothing that most people cannot do if they put their mind to it.

  3. We now live in a falsely polite and controlled society where our controllers, the media, the government and various self-proclaimed experts tell us what to do.  Exactly how we should think, react and feel about everything.

  4. I really believe that most people no longer know how to be genuine to their gut feelings and that is part of the plan.  Either that or the people in charge really are not very bright.

  5. People usually feel what they feel for a reason.  Feelings come naturally and cannot constantly be denied because, if you are mentally healthy, they are trying to tell something.

  6. There’s a difference between being “politically correct” and using tact and diplomacy but still being true to yourself when dealing with others.  Blind political correctness leads to anger and frustration.  Genuinely caring about another’s feelings before speaking does not, even if you do not agree with them.

  7. Children are supposed to be taught self-control as they are growing up so that they may fit in to a civilized society.  This is part of the maturation process. Civility does not come naturally.

  8. Since the beginning of civilizations, people were taught how to police themselves by being taught specific moral values.  They did not need men with guns controlling them in their own society.  The only men with guns most knew were their enemies.

  9. Think of others besides yourself in all aspects of your life.

  10. Most of man’s problems come when they lose their connection to God, the creator and author of all life on the planet.