Motherly Love or Lack Thereof

The other day I was thinking about how so many children are not being raised properly anymore.  Some are unrealistically spoiled and coddled.  Some have manic mothers forcing them to be busy all the time, joining all kinds of activities trying to achieve what they feel they missed in life through their children.  Some don’t have any motherly influence, even though they do live with them, and look to the TV for a familiar face.  The mothers are gone most of the time working sometimes through no fault of their own.  Others want to have a higher standard of living.  They want to be the first one there and last one to leave because they care and because they know if they don’t they may be passed over for a promotion or that unpleasant boss will find yet another reason to give a negative recordation in their review.

Raising a child is one of the most important responsibilities that any woman will ever have.  Way more important then any job, even that of the president of any country.  Women are responsible for not only bringing lives into the world, but how these little people are molded and formed as human beings.  How they are prepared to fit into society and thrive, not just survive.  The worst thing you can do to a child is abuse or neglect them and then expect them to be a success in their life.  Women do this for a number of reasons.  They are alone, struggling and angry and the child is the closest one to them.  These are the children with no fathers or family support or even ones that once had a father who later walks out because he was without substance. The mom is immature and again angry at her life choices, angry that she cannot provide for this very loud and needy little person who cannot defend itself.  There are mothers that are mentally ill or substance abusers and therefore are not able to make good or safe choices for any child.    Then I think about the aborted ones and wonder why.

I started wondering what children think about “pro-choice.”  We adults talk about pro-life and pro-choice, which translated to the truth is pro-life and pro-death.  These are the choices so don’t sugar coat reality and don’t lie about the truth.  That is another blog, but I wondered what the children think.  Children see and hear a lot more than they let on and I was wondering what their take was.  To me this a form of age discrimination and I think that baby had poor representation during Roe v Wade but exactly what does pro-choice look like to children?  What does it say to children about what some mothers think of them?  They need to be aware that sometimes there is no choice in the matter between saving the baby or the mother.  Some mothers would want the baby saved before themselves and some women would save themselves and need to.  Children should have things explained to them fully if they ask.  No woman should ever be forced to carry and nurture a baby if someone attacked them and no child should ever have to carry another child in their womb because someone molested them.  That being said, I am not in favor of abortion as birth control.

Women have the power and need to know this.  They need to stay out of harms way as much as possible and not trust the untrustworthy, stay sober and need to respect themselves as well as any future children by giving them a good chance in life.  Making sure they use good birth control, even if it’s saying no, unless that man marries them and they know they have a decent, trustworthy father for their children.  Women need to know who they are first, and know that they are not who some abusive and neglectful parent told them they were or weren’t.  They are a child of God and deserve a good life with a man who will love them forever, unconditionally.  Not waste any time with some horny for the moment, can’t keep a job or stay straight boy who is only around for one thing.  I still remember the sickening insincere smiling faces of the charmers hanging around hoping for a freebie from me or any girl.  Lust is not love, it is the farthest thing from it but it clouds the senses to further the species.  Young men who treat women like this are beyond disrespectful but we are animals.  We are supposed to be civilized and know the difference between lust and love and be able to reason out our future plans, not just act on every impulse we have.  God help us as a people if we all did that.  All children deserve to be wanted whether they were planned for or not.  It’s called doing the right thing, not doing things because they are easy or fun for us like all the “living your bliss” folks would have you believe.  Every act of kindness is usually an act of sacrifice from someone with love in their hearts.  Mothers, love your children.

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