Civilizations Need to be Civilized

The only way humans become civilized is the same we have domesticated our pets.  We all need proper training.  Much like bad pets sorely in need of obedience training, many people are completely lacking in important manners and social skills that will enable them to survive in the world.  That may even save some of their lives!

Through many years of learning the hard way I’m sure, man has learned what is appropriate and not acceptable by their fellow planet dwellers.  During the swinging 60’s the media became the mouthpiece for selfish clowns that declared “God is dead” and “if it feels good, do it!”  The fact that these flakes were either higher than kites or just rebelling against their years of strict parenting meant nothing to most people because as long as attractive people that dress nicely and speak in well modulated voices say something, they believe it.

Parents loved hearing that little Johnny no longer needed to be disciplined because it might cramp his style or hurt his psyche.  Heaven forbid he hear the word no and be scarred for life!  Who wouldn’t want to believe the clones on TV?  Makes your life easier, you don’t have to care what your children are doing or fight with them anymore.  Who cares if they burn down the house or start killing others when they get a little older?

We all should!

We are all animals and for any animal to get along with others and survive, certain skills must be learned.  The most important of which used to be taught in the home with other siblings or when starting school and that is sharing.  Because only children are more common now, the sharing part is a little trickier than with those that have had to share mom’s love or a room with someone growing up.  The fact remains, conscientious parents do care what their children’s future will be and intelligent ones realize just how important social skills are.

Sadly, the very people that need to learn these skills are usually the last ones that do.  This makes life unpleasant to downright dangerous for everyone.  Neglected children are some of the most angry and disturbed and for the fact that they are “neglected” it means that no one is teaching them anything that will help them in their struggles to fit into an already cruel world.  It’s much easier on a child to fit into a crazy, evil world if they’ve known security and love since birth.  Those that do not feel wanted or loved will treat everyone that slights them later with severe anger because it stirs up the wounds they carry from their painful childhood.  That’s why some can handle a job with a crazy boss much better than others.  No baggage regarding crazy, so they don’t take the abuse or slights personally.

Manners are so important to getting along with others and being liked, but if someone already knows there is not love for them in the world, they have given up on trying to please or placate others.  To them it’s more of an unrealistic expectation to think that others that don’t even like them should expect a smile or kind word from them.  It’s fake to them and it is, make no mistake.

Manners are very fake, but very necessary to making others feel important and showing that you do care.  As artificial as saying please and thank you are, they make others feel as if you are acknowledging them as someone worth respecting.  Neglect is not respect.  Abuse is not fun, but neglect is like saying “you are dead to me” and that’s actually worse.

The more people are neglected, the further they disconnect from the feelings of others, genuinely.  Then when a tragedy occurs many that were raised with somewhat normal parents will ask “why?”  This is why!  These are the people that have no idea what compassion is and never even learned to how fake it.  They are beyond trying to “impress” others and have given up trying, they cannot relate to others.  Then if someone gets on their last twisted nerve, it doesn’t end well.

Mothers, love your children and teach them well while you still can!

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Don’t Mess With The IRS

Shortly after leaving the Internal Revenue Service I sat down and wrote a book to help all taxpayers based on what I experienced in their collection area.  After actually being in the belly of the beast, the very heart of what the IRS exists for, I saw that they were really not as bad as people tried to make out.

In the past I had a couple of issues with them myself because I did not claim some early retirement withdrawal in which tax was withheld before I received it and I genuinely thought I didn’t have to declare it because they had to have already known about it.  Oh how innocent I was!  Another time I didn’t realize there was something called EIC that I qualified for because of a drop in my income.  I’m sure many people don’t know any better when they are about to file.  In fact most IRS issues are genuine failure to follow through because you think you are not liable to do something from filing to reporting things.  The IRS will give you the benefit of the doubt if this is your first time making the mistake.  One time I owed tax the other instance, they gave me a refund because of a credit I didn’t know I had coming.

Most of the time I handled the incoming calls from those that had levies and liens issued against them.  That is the area that also issues these collection actions.  The taxpayers are sent several notices before their cases are transferred to the Automated Collection System for further collection action.  They will try to call you and send you additional notices depending how many were previously sent.  If you don’t call within the time frame given, they will issue liens on any property you may have and levy bank accounts or your wages.  You have to respond even if you cannot pay or don’t plan to file.  It will go much better for you and the representatives will go over many options to resolve any issues you have that you probably are not even aware of.  They will actually be able to stop or prevent collection against you regardless of what you owe if you are currently in a hardship status.

My book was to let people know the easiest and best ways to resolve their individual tax problems without the added expense of a third-party.  It is very easy to deal with the IRS.  There are not ways they will trick you or any other such nonsense.  Make no mistake they will want you to “full pay today” as they are required to ask you, but as long as you tell them what you are able to do, they will work with you.  Many so-called tax resolution experts are not who they say they are and most are either fraudulent, deceiving or incompetent at best.  In the years I was there, we literally talked to thousands of people that were defrauded by just such people by thousands of dollars they could have used to pay towards their tax liabilities or used towards an Offer-in-Compromise if qualified.  Many POA’s simply never bothered to even contact the IRS on behalf of the client that they just filled out the 2848 form with.  This form states for the taxpayer not to call themselves and for this fact, they know you won’t know that they haven’t called yet until you end up with collection action on you.  Then good luck finding some of them that actually disconnect their phones and skip town.

Notice how the tax resolution commercials all seem to say to contact them if you owe over $10,000.  That’s ridiculous!  Any legitimate expert will take your case regardless if you owe anything and work out a reasonable fee with you.  These companies hope that the more you owe, the more you won’t mind paying the $2,000 or more in fees in the hopes they will be able to offer pennies on the dollar, which almost never happens.  Yes there may be legitimate tax accountants and attorneys, there has to be, but don’t just go with anyone.  Make sure who you are dealing with before you make any business deals or sign anything.  Be sure they are referred by someone you trust and respect.  There were many that were taken advantage of by relatives or relatives of friends of theirs so just because you know them does not guarantee anything.

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For the time being, I can only offer “Don’t Mess With The IRS An Unauthorized Customer Service Guide to Resolving Your ACS Collection Issues” by sending a postal money order or cashiers check to:

Please send $14.95 + 3.50 for shipping and handling to: Po’ Girl Publications, PO Box 2464, Dearborn Mi 48123.  Michigan residents please include 90 cents additional for sales tax.

I promise to post more information regarding tax information and resolution in short increments in the future.

See duplicate post under pogirlshines.me Tax Problems?

 

 

 

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Thank You Peter Schorsch!

Man’s stupidity usually knows no bounds unless someone with good sense reigns it in.

I love people like Peter Schorsch.  The ones that will not bow to the current nonsensical actions of those around him and actually dare to try to bring a stop to it.

God only knows what kind of mess this would cause if the “pay it forward” insanity did not come to an end when it did.  If it wasn’t him that stopped it, it would have been someone like me.

I can only imagine someone like myself who never frequents any coffee shops, especially large corporate owned ones with bizarre, occult looking symbols on them, stopping in one day with just a few bucks in their pocket, only to find out that they would be paying for the next customer that was there picking up Crappuccino’s for the entire office.

I don’t think so.

So many sheep went along with this stupidity until the 458th customer that could have afforded to pay and chose not to, stopped it.  Apparently they do this all over.

It does prove to me that even when I had a job, this place was too pretentious for me.  It shows that most, if not all, of the people who stop here can easily afford it otherwise it would have crossed their minds just why this is not a good idea and shouldn’t be continued.

This kind of nonsense discriminates against the poor and is not fair to anyone involved.  It’s fake “paying it forward.”  No one here is in need so they are making a mockery of why this movement ever started.

This man is touted as a liberal blogger but this was a very rational, conservative thing to do so thanks  again!

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What I Know is Wrong With America

Hard to know where to begin, but here goes:

There appears to be a deliberate hostility towards the working class.  The very poor, those that can’t or won’t help themselves seem to have many options available to help them, monetarily, healthcare, food, etc.  It’s the ones that wish to be independent but were not born into a good environment by either being born to alcoholic ragers, crack whores or just some average Joe with a little below average wits and intellect.  If your parents didn’t do very well because of impulsivity, bad judgment, substance abuse or just plain bad luck with an attitude to match, chances are you will go that same route.  There is a lot of hoopla that you can be anything you set your mind to and that’s simply not true, as many have found out.

This is hard enough to face without our own government being allowed to turn against us as well by encouraging businesses to employ people overseas just to save a couple bucks, meanwhile with fewer jobs available, there will be people that will end up in shelters, jails or graveyards cause most won’t live out on the street.  Unemployment does not last forever and the people in our government act like people are rude or out of line to even ask for it, even though it’s their faults that these citizens don’t have their jobs to begin with not to mention that fact that they make all wage employees pay into that system!  No one deserves this kind of treatment from their government.  While our country tries to build up false or exaggerated charges against other countries so they have the excuse to go to war with them, they are actually guilty of much the same or worse to us.  What country would come to the American citizens aid if needed?  I can’t picture this scenario.

Our politicians have allowed some of our jobs to disappear because they are no longer for the citizens of their own country, but for their “One World Order.”  People used to hear this very Sci-Fi term but it’s now in effect.  It’s not something they are going to make real noticeable at first, and most don’t realize how bad it’s become already.  They won’t realize it til they are one of the unemployed or asked to take cuts so the rich can stay that way.  “One World Order” is what you are seeing when foreign companies are allowed to bid for a job in America against the American citizens that work and live here.  Contract job bidding has been around for a while and not a fair way to do business because it forces Independent Contractors to work for less than deserved simply so they get the job over another company.  Jobs should be given because of the skill and quality of the work done, not how cheap they will work.  That not being bad enough, and with so many that have lost jobs, our government has now decided that people that have come to this country illegally, should be allowed to stay and their children should be given an education to boot!  What the f’?!

Some have commented that the Democrats in charge of the White House at this time are doing this deliberately because they know the poor and illegal will become Democrats and they are trying to get the extra votes.  I do know there would have to be some kind method to their madness or this wouldn’t be happening.

The Republicans have been actively trying to eradicate all unions.  I am pro-union because I have seen the good they have done in the past.  Many that are anti-union say they don’t like the control they have over the employees, politically and such and that they are useless drains on the working man’s paychecks with the union dues collected.  I do know that many union leaders earn a tremendous amount of money that proves they don’t have the employees best interest at heart either.

The bought and paid for liberal media is really wrong and very manipulative.  There is proof of bias in reporting as well as totally leaving out important news and facts about the stories they do report.

I’m also very curious why the couldn’t save the life of journalists that are doing much-needed reporting in our war zones, yet our President chose to release a number of dangerous terrorists for the life of one deserter.  What’s up with that?

 

 

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Daily Prompt: New Wrinkles on my Old Life

 

When I first saw The Daily Post I was thinking “Oh no he didn’t!”

The truth is, that is exactly what happened to me.

One day I was young and attractive, men buzzing around me like bees to the flowers and the next thing I knew I woke up to the harsh reality that I was old.  Not older but an actual Senior citizen.  In between I was too busy working non-stop instead of trying to find another husband like most of my friends and never had time to worry about such nonsense.  My bad!

One day it was smiles and “hey sweet thing” and the next was “you look good for your age” and overhearing “I bet she used to be pretty.”

This is my life now.  Thank God I am not as vain as I thought I was and know I have lots of stuff to do in this life beside look cute.  I am so glad that I went back to school and got a decent job and was able to take care of my family and not be desperate to find someone else to get divorced from in another few years.  Many women don’t believe in themselves enough to know they are totally able to do the same thing.  All you have to do is believe and go for it!

 

 

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Daily Prompt: The Thing About Lemonade

Or anything good that’s made with lemons:

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Daily Prompt: Old as Dirt

In ten days I will be 63 years old!

I keep recalling when one of my co-workers told me how old she was.  She was 52 at the time and while I was only 10 years younger I found myself wondering what it would feel like to be that old.

She looked good for her age.  She was a pretty woman, a little overweight, divorced, as myself.  She was involved in a long-term but abusive relationship with someone much younger and I wondered if she put up with it just to feel younger herself.  I remember her telling us that her brand new vehicle was in the shop because her boyfriend had come over drunk and started kicking in the side just to hurt her.  I also wondered what I would have done in the same situation because I’m not so forgiving.

Getting over Scarlet Fever in the 1950's.  Thank God antibiotics were introduced about 10 years before.

Getting over Scarlet Fever in the 1950’s. Thank God antibiotics were introduced about 10 years before.

Oh, that’s right, the age thing again.  Well I’m glad I can say I’m getting old.  Many people never get to say this.  The baby that never makes it to it’s first birthday.  The child that succumbs to some childhood illness or accident like I almost did at age seven.  That young soldier that was just killed in yet another of our many wars and all the people trying to live our their lives and because of illness, accident or deliberate acts of downright evil, never get to grow old.

Rejoice in whatever age you are.  Revel in it and never take your life or that of others for granted.

The grim-reaper is just around the corner as we all will eventually find out.

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Believe in the Truth

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Daily Prompt: Laughing til you pee!

I have always loved to laugh.  As teens my sister and I would have our friends spend the night on weekends and get in so much trouble laughing until the wee hours of the morning.

I remember when our authoritative and sometimes brutal father would be in a bad mood at the dinner table.  He would greet everyone by, “and I don’t want to hear a peep out of anyone tonight, just eat!”  One of us, usually me, would try to make an almost silent “peep” sound just to defy him, even if it possibly meant a beating.  That’s how dysfunctional were all were.  Then I would get a super case of nerves and want to burst out laughing, again at my own risk.  I would sit there stifling my laughter, in which I would be making an audible sort of snort sound.  Sometimes my siblings would join me and the harder we tried not to laugh the stronger the urge was to burst out with loud guffaws.  About that time, if my dad was not in that bad of a mood, both my parents would join us laughing.

I remember one time sitting in church with my family and friends after I was married for a special Christmas program.  The pastor walked out on stage with a hand drawn card in his hand.  My oldest quickly telling us that the pastor was holding his card, he recognized it because he drew a bouquet of flowers on the back.  The pastor then proceeded to read the card to the entire congregation “Roses are red, violets are blue, it’s snowing outside, and in here too!”  The entire church broke out laughing and I was so embarrassed!  My friend could not stop laughing even after the pastor began to preach so we both got the giggles and could hardly control ourselves.  Best night ever!

To answer the question when was the last time I really laughed, it was while I was writing this, just thinking about it again.

Being silly after harvest time.

Being silly after harvest time.

I learned that you truly can laugh to keep from crying.  That you can choose to see the light side of almost anything, so that’s my choice and hope you feel the same way!

Pop in a comedy tonight or just start watching some crazy pet or child video on youtube.com.  A good laugh or silliness can really lighten your mood.

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Compassion in a Troubled World

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