The only way humans become civilized is the same we have domesticated our pets. We all need proper training. Much like bad pets sorely in need of obedience training, many people are completely lacking in important manners and social skills that will enable them to survive in the world. That may even save some of their lives!
Through many years of learning the hard way I’m sure, man has learned what is appropriate and not acceptable by their fellow planet dwellers. During the swinging 60’s the media became the mouthpiece for selfish clowns that declared “God is dead” and “if it feels good, do it!” The fact that these flakes were either higher than kites or just rebelling against their years of strict parenting meant nothing to most people because as long as attractive people that dress nicely and speak in well modulated voices say something, they believe it.
Parents loved hearing that little Johnny no longer needed to be disciplined because it might cramp his style or hurt his psyche. Heaven forbid he hear the word no and be scarred for life! Who wouldn’t want to believe the clones on TV? Makes your life easier, you don’t have to care what your children are doing or fight with them anymore. Who cares if they burn down the house or start killing others when they get a little older?
We all should!
We are all animals and for any animal to get along with others and survive, certain skills must be learned. The most important of which used to be taught in the home with other siblings or when starting school and that is sharing. Because only children are more common now, the sharing part is a little trickier than with those that have had to share mom’s love or a room with someone growing up. The fact remains, conscientious parents do care what their children’s future will be and intelligent ones realize just how important social skills are.
Sadly, the very people that need to learn these skills are usually the last ones that do. This makes life unpleasant to downright dangerous for everyone. Neglected children are some of the most angry and disturbed and for the fact that they are “neglected” it means that no one is teaching them anything that will help them in their struggles to fit into an already cruel world. It’s much easier on a child to fit into a crazy, evil world if they’ve known security and love since birth. Those that do not feel wanted or loved will treat everyone that slights them later with severe anger because it stirs up the wounds they carry from their painful childhood. That’s why some can handle a job with a crazy boss much better than others. No baggage regarding crazy, so they don’t take the abuse or slights personally.
Manners are so important to getting along with others and being liked, but if someone already knows there is not love for them in the world, they have given up on trying to please or placate others. To them it’s more of an unrealistic expectation to think that others that don’t even like them should expect a smile or kind word from them. It’s fake to them and it is, make no mistake.
Manners are very fake, but very necessary to making others feel important and showing that you do care. As artificial as saying please and thank you are, they make others feel as if you are acknowledging them as someone worth respecting. Neglect is not respect. Abuse is not fun, but neglect is like saying “you are dead to me” and that’s actually worse.
The more people are neglected, the further they disconnect from the feelings of others, genuinely. Then when a tragedy occurs many that were raised with somewhat normal parents will ask “why?” This is why! These are the people that have no idea what compassion is and never even learned to how fake it. They are beyond trying to “impress” others and have given up trying, they cannot relate to others. Then if someone gets on their last twisted nerve, it doesn’t end well.
Mothers, love your children and teach them well while you still can!