Achieving Your Dreams

Has anyone ever really done that?

When I look at the shambles that is my life, I am amazed.

I always thought when you tried to do everything right, played by the rules, sacrificed, worked hard and loved that you would live “happily ever after.”

To quote Nick Cage in Moonstruck “We are here to ruin ourselves and to break our hearts and love the wrong people and die!  The storybooks are bullshit!”

The biggest disappointment I have ever found in life was the fact that you can’t change other people.  You can’t make someone love you if they don’t, no matter how hard you try to make it work.  It shouldn’t be this way, but then a lot of things shouldn’t be that way.

I guess that’s why I like “The Station.”  Here is a reprint if you are not familiar with it.

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The Station

by Robert J. Hastings

Tucked away in our subconscious is an idyllic vision.  We see ourselves on a long trip that spans the continent.  We are traveling by train.  Out the windows we drink in the passing scene of cars on nearby highways, of children waving at a crossing, of cattle grazing on a distant hillside, of smoke pouring from a power plant, of row upon row of corn and wheat, of flatlands and valleys, of mountains and rolling hillsides, of city skylines and village halls.

But uppermost in our minds is the final destination.  On a certain day at a certain hour we will pull into the station.  Bands will be playing and flags waving.  Once we get there so many wonderful dreams will come true and the pieces of our lives will fit together like a completed jigsaw puzzle.  How restlessly we pace the aisles, damning the minutes for loitering – waiting, waiting, waiting for the station.

     “When we reach the station, that will be it!” we cry.  “When I’m 18.”  “When I buy a new 450SL Mercedes-Benz!”  “When I put the last kid through college.”  “When I have paid off the mortgage!”  “When I get a promotion.”  “When I reach the age of retirement, I shall live happily ever after!”

     Sooner or later we must realize there is no station, no one place to arrive at once and for all.  The true joy of life is the trip.  The station is only a dream.  It constantly outdistances us.

     “Relish the moment” is a good motto, especially when coupled with Psalm 118:24: “This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it.”  It isn’t the burdens of today that drive men mad.  It is the regrets over yesterday and the fear of tomorrow.  Regret and fear are twin thieves who rob us of today.

     So, stop pacing the aisles and counting the miles.  Instead, climb more mountains, eat more ice cream, go barefoot more often, swim more rivers, watch more sunsets, laugh more, cry less.  Life must be lived as we go along.  The station will come soon enough.

And all of us will be getting off then so I did as the gentleman suggested and I ate more ice cream tonight.  I know I can’t live forever and as someone who painstakingly always ate right and worked out the first half century of my life, I hope my body can withstand the extra fat and sugar.  If not, I’ll find out soon enough.

I’m eating ice cream for two now.  Me and my broken dreams!

 

 

The Meaning of Life

I still have the first wall art purchased for my first apartment.

I still have the first wall art purchased for my first apartment.

If you blog you probably are someone who has enough introspect to wonder why you are here.  Why any of us are here.

I would contemplate that I was here to one day make some huge difference in the world like Mother Theresa or Gandhi.  I used to think that people who really cared ran away from the 9 to 5 and went overseas to do mission work or something equally as dramatic.

I now realize that this is not for everyone and that usually good people are needed right where they are.  In the first place you would need to speak the language of any foreign nation you go to or you wouldn’t be able to ask them where the rest room was, let alone communicate anything important to them.  If everyone up and left for another land, who would minister to all the needy in their own town?

As an ex-workaholic, I have ministered to co-workers as well as some of my customers.  Even when I worked for “the man!”  I actually had one woman look me up later to thank me for taking the time to speak to her as a person, spiritually, that went beyond just helping her resolve the financial problems she was struggling with at the time.

It’s the idea of blooming where you’re planted.  That God will place you where He needs you.  He will put certain people in your path to help or be helped.  People talk about making the most of the day and giving til it hurts but I don’t really agree.  You are not supposed to make your life any more complicated than it already is and you are certainly not supposed to be hard on yourself about anything.  You have the world for that.

All you can do is the best you can and that should never be a strain.  I’m not saying you won’t be called to strain on occasion and only you know when and if the spirit will move you to make some type of great sacrifice.  I know that you should never feel guilty for being who you are and where you are.  God knows your life and what you are capable of.  Life is not a contest.  It’s life and it’s unpredictable and offers no guarantees of any kind.  Even Jesus told people not to worry about tomorrow or what they will eat or drink.

I believe as long as you walk in the word and appreciate your blessings God will provide for you in the same manner that you provide for those God has given you.

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Is It The IRS Calling?!

This post is to provide some basic Internal Revenue Service information so that you don’t fall for some of the scams out there.

The IRS does make phone calls and it does send agents to businesses if you are behind in your taxes or have other unresolved tax issues.

They will not do this for any first attempts to contact you so if you ever hear from anyone by phone or email claiming to be from the IRS and you are fairly certain that you do not have IRS issues, don’t fall for it.

The recent scams sound official and from what I understand, they give people the same type of information that the IRS does.  They give a name, badge number and a case number.  The IRS gives this information out as well as a phone number for the taxpayer to call back if they are not comfortable speaking with this “stranger” on the phone.  It’s perfectly natural not to trust someone calling saying they’re from the IRS and the IRS does not know who they are speaking to until they request that you give them your personal information including your full social security number so that they may verify this with their information on file.  I urge all taxpayers not to give the person calling any information, especially a social security number, but instead take the number you are given by them and call the official number of the IRS, 800-829-1040, to verify it is legitimate before calling back!  If you are not given a phone number to call back or they are requesting payment information, hang up because you know its a scam.

It’s important to remember that the Internal Revenue Service’s first attempts to contact is by mail for most problems and it is very important to respond to that first notice so that your issue does not blow out of proportion and you accrue additional penalties and interest.

Though some IRS agents and field representatives will take payments, never give any payments or payment information to anyone collecting for the IRS.  The collection representatives will give you the information needed to send your payments depending on your state and how you wish to make them.  If you aren’t able to fully pay your liabilities, they will be able to establish some type of payment arrangement for you.  Please don’t establish one if you really are in dire straights financially and will only end up defaulting right away.

If you believe that you are in some kind of a hardship situation, let the IRS customer service rep know this so they can take the appropriate action.  They will need to collect some financial information from you so they can determine if you are currently uncollectible and all collection will be placed on temporary hold.

More information can be found on this and other IRS Collection issues in my book soon to be on Amazon.com.

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Arsenic in Brown Rice and Apple Juice

And the Great Witch Hunt For Doctor Oz

The government thought they could shut him up by intimidation by making him appear before their mighty counsel and take him to task by stating that his claims that certain natural foods could help in losing weight was not accurate.  They claimed there was no proof in this and he was just getting  people’s hopes up.  They told him to cease making these kinds of claims even though there are people who have actually lost weight using these foods.  He lacked the “scientific proof” they were requesting.  This is the best they could do at the time.

Coincidentally they did this after he started exposing the danger that was in some of our major food sources.  Dangers that could actually put our health and very lives at stake.  Findings that ABC News senior health and medical editor Dr. Richard Besser did not believe and people at the top felt threatened enough to have this other Doctor publicly condemn the findings.  Dr. Oz was challenged by numerous sources very publicly with these findings that named the brands that came from major corporations.  When you adversely effect the profits of any large corporation you had better be prepared to put your money where your mouth is and Dr. Oz was prepared because he challenged Dr. Besser to send samples for independent testing himself and Dr. Besser later agreed with Dr. Oz’s findings that we do have dangerous levels of arsenic in our apple juices.

Ironically he appeared before The Senate consumer protection panel who apparently, just aren’t doing their job and neither was the FDA as you will see if you click on the above link.  I was amazed that the FDA would even think of hiding findings for any reason but now know that our government covers up whenever they feel like it.

We live in a very material world with capitalism the base of America.  Every time Dr. Oz gives people natural remedies or a way to be naturally healthy, that’s one less pill or diet supplement that will be sold.  That’s loss of profit for that business.  Anytime he warns people of the dangers in our food source, that’s less products being purchased and again it effects the bottom line of that company.  Even though we may be healthier, in a capitalist society that is heresy!

I don’t know about you but I only have one life and I want to live it as healthy as possible.  I want to be given all the facts so that I may choose what I wish to do.  I do know that Dr. Oz is for the people and our government will cover up dangers we need to be aware of in favor of corporate greed.  That doesn’t say very much about our country but it doesn’t surprise me at all since corporations are large contributors to reelection campaigns and don’t contribute to anyone that is not a “team player.”

That being said, I am disgusted at the obvious attempt now to again try and shut this good Doctor up and make him lose his credibility.  I for one felt a need to speak up in his defense.  This latest attack by some in the medical community only confirms my worst fears about them.  Most are only in it for the money now.  I am sure this is a group of snot-nose sell-outs who got through medical school on some trust fund from their parents and now think they are too good to be linked with Dr. Oz at Columbia University or feel some type of pressure from unnamed sources to pull a stunt like this.  In the typical “liberal with an agenda” style, they are attempting to get Dr. Oz removed because they seem to feel he is not holding up the Hippocratic oath of “first do no harm.”

I think they better look in the mirror.

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Monsters Are Real

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When you watch a horror movie about monsters or psycho killers, they all have one thing in common that is supposed to bring fear to your heart.

These “things” will stop at nothing!  Is that a character flaw?  That alone, no.  The reason they don’t stop is they are focused on one thing.  Obsessed, if you will, single-minded to get what they want.  Problem with scary movies is they usually want to harm or kill someone.  Usually it’s some innocent person that doesn’t even know the perpetrator of this evil.  Never met them, never wants to meet them and hopes it will crawl back into hell from whence it came!

Complete and utter lack of compassion and empathy is shared by all.  I guess that’s why I have no sympathy for murderers of any kind.  I don’t compare those that have had to kill in self-defense or for the good of all as murderers or even killers.  They did what they had to do against what their personal beliefs were for the good of mankind or to save themselves from someone who didn’t give them a choice in the matter.  That is very different from having the heart of a monster.  In fact many of those people are heroes.

The real monsters are many now because most don’t believe in God.  That belief alone says you have no faith.  Faithless people are capable of anything and it’s not likely it will be anything positive.  They are empty vessels and all vessels will be filled with something whether they know it or not.  Jesus spoke of this when he referred to the body as the house and it was well swept after an exorcism but must be filled in a way as to not invite more evil spirits.  He also made reference to serving.  Everything a man does reflects his true heart and who he serves.  Who do you serve?

All God’s children fill their vessels with love and they share this love in all that they do.

My mother lied to me as a child when she told me there was no such thing as monsters.  Every time we listen to the latest horror fest on the news, we know for certain that monsters really do exist.  But much like the monsters in the movies, they never win.

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